This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: Don't let someone get all the benefits of your love without the responsiblilty of taking care of your heart.
We don't know about you but the words of this quote just hit hard. Dreamers may relate to this one especially: have you continued to give and give to someone, not to be met with the same tenderness? We certainly have. And it can be quite painful.
It's not saying that love is tit-for-tat, but you know when it feels lopsided. This isn't to say you should withhold your love and play games, but it does mean if someone isn't showing up for you, it's time to stop acting like their PR agent justifying their actions (or rather inactions) and keep giving to someone who hasn't earned your time and attention.
One of our favorite chapters in the book is about investing appropriately. If we could turn back time, that would be the one thing we did differently. And we would have stopped giving someone all the benefits of the relationship without the work. This isn't about tests or ultimatums, but more about holding ourselves to higher standards. And finding the type of relationship you simply deserve.
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What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! Dating in Your 40's with Kimmy Seltzer. After a wildly popular Dating in Your 30s episode a few seasons ago, we're back to talk about dating in your 40s (and beyond!) We're joined by return-guest Kimmy Seltzer who helps people date in their "second act." We loved hearing the response to this one already, so make sure to tune in whatever your age is! Make sure to subcribe today to get all the latest!
💕 Our signature program 'Finding Your Person' is now OPEN! This is our flagship program where we take on a new cohort 1-2 times per year. If you're sick of endlessly swiping and want a real connection, this is for you. This is our best content yet—we’re not holding back any secrets and hope to see you there.
👟 Julie is getting back into running after a long long hiatus – and it feels good!
🏺Yue took a pottery class and was surprised by how much “fingering” is involved
Upcoming Events
Love Isn't Blind: If you're looking for comedy, mingling, and an outright good time, check out the live dating show 'Love Isn't Blind' with comedian Allison Goldberg. The show will be coming to San Diego, Chicago, SF, LA, Denver, NYC, DC and more! Use code DATEABLE for discounted tix.
You can also see all up to date Dateable book events on our website.
Your Deal of the Week:
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Julie is obsessed with SKIMS and fully gets the hype. She will be now getting all her undergarments from here from now on and you can too (select podcast in the survey and tell them Dateable sent you!)
We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. A big thank you to everyone who has already ordered the book and for everyone else:
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- Leave a review on the platform you bought from
- Let us know what you think (we love all the emails, posts in the Facebook group, Instagram DM's, etc)
- Share with a friend who also needs this book now
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Stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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