This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: It's not the truth, it's just anxiety.
It's too common to have thoughts like "Why haven't they texted yet?" "I said something wrong" "They're losing interest" "I'm not enough." But this is just the anxious brain talking!
It's so easy to go here. But as soon as we recognize these thoughts are actually not the truth, then it's easy to rewire the next thought that comes after. "They'll respond soon" "My needs are valid" "If it's not right, that's ok."
Because we can't control what others do. All we can control is how we react to it. And if the person shows us they aren't right for us, all they're doing is making room for the person who is.
❤️ Share with a friend that also needs to hear this as well.
What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! The Emotional Labor and Mental Load (In Dating & Relationships). Make sure to subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts for the latest #brunchtalk out Sunday too!
💤 Julie is catching up on sleep. Looking forward to a very restful weekend!
🇨🇳 Yue is enjoying her last days in China before heading back soon!
Book Review of the week
"There are so many important relational skills this book; not all of them dating. I'd recommend this to anyone who wants a deeper connection.
It does an especially great job addressing the challenges of dating today. This was published in 2025, so it addresses many of the modern technologies and social processes we're up against!"
Pick up the book (or audiobook) now if you haven't yet. And leave us a review on Amazon, Goodreads, or wherever else you got the book (Audible, Barnes & Noble, Spotify, etc.)
Upcoming Events
Love Isn't Blind: If you're looking for comedy, mingling, and an outright good time, check out the live dating show 'Love Isn't Blind' with comedian Allison Goldberg. Shows are currently scheduled for SF, LA, San Diego, Portland, Chicago, NYC and DC. Use code DATEABLE for discounted tix.
Chaotic Singles Party: Tired of the apps? Want to date IRL at an epic party instead? Come to a Chaotic Singles Party (now in 12 cities nationwide!) After going viral on TikTok for inviting her dating app matches to her house for a house party, Cassidy Davis started a new dating trend called The Chaotic Singles Party. Now she hosts these parties all over the country where 100+ singles can meet matches IRL at an epic party!
Your Deal of the Week:
Yue got her latest fall wardrobe updates from Quince! Seriously those cashmere sweaters are the best value and look so so lux. Go to https://quince.com/dateable for free shipping and 365 day returns.
Julie has been thinking about the episode we did recently with Dr. Mindy DeSeta who is a sexologiest for the Hily Dating app about digital sexual consent. If you want a safer dating experience, download Hily from the App Store or Google Play, or check out https://hily.go.link/kuZOy
We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. A big thank you to everyone who has already ordered the book and for everyone else:
- Order the book: https://www.howtobedateable.com
- Leave a review on the platform you bought from
- Let us know what you think (we love all the emails, posts in the Facebook group, Instagram DM's, etc)
- Share with a friend who also needs this book now
Make sure to subscribe to Dateable wherever you listen to podcasts and follow us @dateablepodcast on Instagram!
Have a great weekend and stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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