This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: Vulnerablity is not trauma dumping
Ah the v-word. So important, yet wildly misused. We've seen people say they are being 'vulnerable' sharing all their past wounds and life dilemmas on a date. But often this falls flat. No one wants to feel like their date's therapist (unless maybe they venmo you $250 for that hour) and it certainly doesn't bring you closer in a romantic way.
So if we know this is not vulnerablity...what is it? We have an incredible episode this week with Dr. Morgan Anderson (of the podcast Let's Get Vulnerable) that unpacks it all. Vulnerability is sharing what you need. Vulnerability is putting yourself out there – even if you risk getting hurt. It's taking ownership of your patterns. And it's ultimately choosing the path that leads to growth (even if it's really freaking hard).
Vulnerability on a date can be as simple as telling someone how you feel. Or that you want to see them again. Or that you had a good time. It can be asking them to DTR or sharing something that's been bothering you (once that trust is earned) Vulnerability within your self is being real with whatever feelings you are feeling. It's recognizing how you may be contributing to a situation (even if it's not intentional). It's getting honest about what really needs to change in order to find love.
Vulnerabilty is quintessential to having a successful dating life (and relationship for that matter!) so it's more important than ever that we get this definition right. Because no one wants to be on that dreaded therapy date. But you probably do want to feel that emotional connection that draws you closer to another human being.
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What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! Let's Get Vulnerable w/ Dr. Morgan Anderson. If you haven't yet, make sure to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. We will also be back with #brunchtalk this Sunday where we go into the #1 question people are asking in dating (and it may surprise you as much as it surprised us).
📺 We're doing weekly Dating Q&A Live on YouTube! Pop into our channel every Tuesday at 4pm PT / 7pm ET and ask us questions live! Subscribe today if you haven't yet.
💕 Our signature program 'Finding Your Person' will open this SUNDAY! This is our flagship program where we take on a new cohort 1-2 times per year. This program does sell out each time as an FYI so join the early-bird waitlist.
🎉 Julie is going to a nightmarket tonight with local artisans, cuisine, and entertainment and not quite sure what to expect!
🐶 Yue went to puppy yoga and it was really hard to leave without one. They were all maltipoos!
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Stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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