This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: It can be a hard maybe
One theme that kept coming up over of all our talks was: when should I give something more of a chance versus leave the situation? Should I go on another date? Should I continue the relationship? Or should I cut-out if I'm not 100% there?
We hear you. It can be hard to know what to do. You don't want to waste time with the wrong people. But you also know that the spark isn't always leading you in the right direction.
We'd like to invite you to sit in the hard maybe.
We love Mark Manson and agree that ultimately we should be a f*ck yes for someone. But the reality is that doesn't always happen instantaneously. Cue the Expectation of Love On Demand! Especially in the early stages of getting to know someone - whether you've been on a date or two or if you're evaluating if this person could be a real partner
When it's a hard maybe, it means you're getting to f*ck yes. It's relieving the pressure to know right away, but knowing you are interested in seeing where this goes. It's chasing the curiosity if you had a "good enough" time (no that's not settling!) It's being open if you're not completely sure or this person isn't typically your type. It's not settling for someone who doesn't treat you well, you find unattractive, or you don't enjoy being around. That's a f*ck no. Set those people free, but see if the hard maybes can keep building momentum. And if they don't? Then at least you know you gave it your all.
Connections take time. And we don't give them enough room to develop anymore. Because the reality is that hard maybe can soon turn into a f*ck yes.
❤️ Forward to a friend that also needs to hear this as well.
What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! Money for Couples w/ Ramit Sethi We've been dying to release this episode with Ramit Sethi (author of Money for Couples, I Will Teach You To Be Rich and Netflix star How To Get Rich)! There is so much wisdom dropped whether you're in a serious committed partnership, new relationship or even single AF. Make sure you listen if you haven't yet! Also stay tuned for a new #brunchtalk this weeend!
🎉 More Book Events! LA Folks: come see us at Barnes & Noble Santa Monica for a book signing Friday 2/21 (tomorrow!) and then Saturday 2/22 at the Book Jewel (near LAX) from 4-6pm. NYC Dateables let us know where we should go next because we're working on coming to you all soon!
❤️ Looking for more places to meet & mingle? Hit comedy/dating show (featured on NBC's California Live, The Tamron Hall Show, and most importantly, Dateable!) is coming to San Francisco this Friday night. Whether single or taken, use code DATEABLE for a sweet discount, and you can apply for upcoming shows (or nominate your single friends) at loveisntblind.com. Check the site for more cities and dates too!
🍣 Yue & Julie had a fun double date dinner with their partners in SF. Yue's "manfriend" came up for a couple days and we all enjoyed getting together.
Your Deal of the Week:
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We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. A big thank you to everyone who has already ordered the book and for everyone else:
- Order the book: https://www.howtobedateable.com
- Leave a review on the platform you bought from
- Let us know what you think (we love all the emails, posts in the Facebook group, Instagram DM's, etc)
- Share with a friend who also needs this book now
Stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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