This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: The magic is in the middle
Hopefully you got to listen to the incredible episode that was dropped this week with Dr. Laurie Santos (but if not, time to catch up this weekend!)
There's a part about the arrival fallacy (or the happily ever after myth). That once you reach whatever said goal or mileston you have, then you'll be happy.
But as Laurie points out, this isn't the way to true happiness.
Julie was asked to do a lightening talk at Neon in San Francisco (where we had one of our book launch events) so decided to really hone in on this topic. Because as an Achiever, it's SO easy to get laser focused on that outcome that you forget all the learning and experiences that happened along the way (you can also catch this in a quickie episode that just dropped this morning)
But the truth is, so much happens in the middle. That's not to say it's easy: it can certainly be hard at times, messy, and emotionally challenging Especially when certain things, like love, aren't falling into place! But there's also so much good that happens between milestones - the life experiences, the friendships, even the heartbreak that leads to so much personal growth.
The reality too is that you're always in the middle – even when you hit those said milestones. Because there's always a moving target, a new goal post. It's about not just embracing the middle, but truly enjoying it. Becuase one day, you will look back at this time (even the hard parts) with fondness. We're learning to really savor each day and moment for what it is. Because life isn't just the milestones; it's what happens between them.
❤️ Forward to a friend that also needs to hear this as well.
What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! The Science of Happiness (In Relationships) w/ Laurie Santos We've gotten so much great feedback on this episode so make sure to check it out! Also stay tuned for next week for very special episode with no other than Diego Perez aka Yung Pueblo. You've probably seen his quotes circulating instagram and now it's time to hear from the man behind them! Make sure to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen if you haven't yet.
📅 Meeing People IRL Spring is approaching so it's time to start getting out there! But meeting people in-real life isn't always easy – and can actually be fruitless and demotivating without a sustainable, energizing strategy. We are so excited to bring back our Meeting People IRL Masterclass with tactics we've both used to meet people we actually wanted to date IRL (and also seen work for thousands of daters in our community!) March is now Meeting IRL month and we're offering a special discount for Dateable listeners with the code DATEABLE.
☀️ Julie is enjoying the sunny weather this weekend and reconnecting with some friends after a busy couple of weeks with events + recoup + binge TV watching.
📺 Yue is officially on the White Lotus bandwagen after Julie was shocked she had never seen the show. She started at Season 2, finished, and just got to the butt scene in Season 1.
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We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. A big thank you to everyone who has already ordered the book and for everyone else:
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Stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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