This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: Let's change the markers of dating success
This has come up too many times to count at all of our book events + was a theme on this week's episode with fan-fav Marni Battista: we need to start looking at what makes dating "success" differently.
The point of dating is to find the right person – for you. The reality is that most people will not be that person, nor will you be for them. And this OK! It's what makes finding that person so damn special.
But the problem is when we hold the metric of success to "did we end up in a relationship?" or "did we go on another date?" we're being set up to fail. Because 99% of people you. meet are not going to be your match!
We need to start looking through the threshold of: "Am I being myself?" "Am I being considerate to this other person, and treating them like a partner (even if it's a partner for 1 hour)?" And most importantly, "Am I staying true to myself and honoring my needs in the process of dating this person?"
Remember, rejection is just redirection. It says nothing about your worth or value as a person. It doesn't matter if you get to the next date if it's with the wrong person. A better metric is to show up as the realest, most authentic version of you. The right person wouldn't fathom letting that go. And the rest: let them make room for THAT person.
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What We're Up To This Week
🎧 New Episode Alert! Living Your Radical (Dating Life) w/ Marni Battista. Catch up this weekend if you haven't listened yet – this one has SO many good nuggets that will really make you change those success markers. Make sure to subcribe today and stay tuned for this week's brunch talk which could be relatable for some (and eye-opening for others).
💕 Our signature program 'Finding Your Person' is here! This is our flagship program where we take on a new cohort 1-2 times per year. If you're sick of endlessly swiping and want a real connection, this is for you. Learn more and sign up now, as we're getting low on spots and registration will close at the end of the month.
🏄 Julie is headed to sunny San Diego to celebrate one of her friend's 40th bdays.
👙 Yue's been enjoying swimming in the Atlantic after a great week in Florida.
Upcoming Events
Love Isn't Blind: If you're looking for comedy, mingling, and an outright good time, check out the live dating show 'Love Isn't Blind' with comedian Allison Goldberg. The show will be coming to San Diego, Chicago, SF, LA, Denver, NYC, DC and more! Use code DATEABLE for discounted tix.
Your Deal of the Week:
Yue brought all her summer rentals to Florida from Armoire. Especially for travel, it could not be easier than to rent new styles and just swap them for more. Get 50% off your first month of clothing rentals (up to $125 off) with the code DATEABLE
Julie got her new shipment of laundry tablets and swears by these. They make doing laundry SO much easier when you're not lugging around big detergent bottles. Get 15% off Blueland Cleaning supplies with the code DATEABLE
We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. A big thank you to everyone who has already ordered the book and for everyone else:
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Have a great weekend and stayyyy Dateable.
XOXO,
Julie & Yue
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