❤️ Your Dating Archetype | The Dateable Dish

Hey Dateables,

It's been one heck of a week, especially here on the West Coast. Our hearts go out to everyone in the LA area. Yue is safely in Orange County, but this week has been devastating on all accounts. Our friend of the pod, John Kim (aka the angry therapist) who we just had as a guest the other week shared the devasting impact to his home + neighborhood. If you feel so inclined, consider donating to either his gofundme or the myriad of other support relief funds to help the people of LA. LA Dateables, we're sending you extra ❤️ love week.

On a more positive note, we've seen SO many of you take the dating archetypes quiz this week! We'd love to know your thoughts: What was suprising to you? What was to be expected? What did you learn? Feel free to reply back to us with your archetype(s) and any insight you gleaned! And if you're still putting together the pieces, that's all good too! We can't wait for our book to come out January 28th which will put this all into perspective!

This Is What You Need To Hear Right Now: The unfiltered you will do the filtering for you.

We had a great conversation this week with dating coach Marni Battista that will be on next season of the pod (been hard at work recording great guests and topics!) and the central theme was around the question: Were you YOU?

In dating, so often we put on a "dating persona" or only show select parts of ourselves that we think will be liked. There are unconscious scripts we think we need to follow in order to "be a good date" or "attract the type of partner we want" – many which have been engrained in us by society and years of bad dating advice.

But this doesn't work. All it does is make dating stressful, unenjoyable, and performative. It doesn't foster real connection. And it doesn't allow you to find the right person for you if you're hiding your true self. We've both learned this the hard way: for years Julie couldn't get past the 3rd date because she wasn't letting people see the version of herself her friends knew and loved. Yue had a huge wakeup call that she wasn't showing her true self on dates through a dating experiement episode we did wayyyyy back when the pod started that forever changed her way of dating after hearing this.

You may be thinking: of course, I show up as myself when dating. But if you are holding back even the tiniest amount, coming with prepared questions, or feeling like you need to be "on" when dating, this may be getting in your way more than you think. With the dating archetypes in mind, we want you to lean into your strengths and what makes you uniquely YOU. Don't be afraid to scare off the wrong people – in fact, we encourage you to scare them away! Because the best relationships are when you don't hold back at all – and you can be seen, heard, and celebrated for the wonderful person you are.

❤️ Forward to a friend that also needs to hear this as well.

What We're Up To This Week

🎧 New Episode Alert! Discovering Your Dating Archetype: If you haven't yet listened to the full episode explaining all the archeytpes, tune in this weekend! Also, over the next two weeks, we'll be doing crowd-favorites where we interview each other. Make sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or whever you get your podcasts. Stay tuned next week where Yue interviews Julie about her recent engagment and all her development the last year.

📖 Our finished books arrived! Getting these in the mail and seeing the final printed book was SURREAL! We absolutely cannot wait until January 28th when 'How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Personal & Falling in Love' comes out!! (and yes, Julie needs to take down her Christmas tree).

🎁 Get your FREE gifts: If you haven't yet, go get your free extras when you pre-order. If you're new to the Dateable universe (or just haven't redeemed yet), we're giving away $108 worth of gifts for FREE for anyone who pre-orders the book! You'll get our free Modern Dating Survival Guide + our Navigating Dating Anxiety Audio Guide + 25 Questions To Ask In The First Month Of Dating. You can preorder hardcover, kindle or audiobook versions: all you do is enter your order number and you get your extras instantly!

⭐️ We're announcing a special community event in the Facebook group 'Big Dateable Energy' next week. So if you aren't there yet, join now.

💒 Julie is looking at wedding venues this weekend up in the NorCal area. It's certainly overwhelming but fun at the same time.

🫂 Yue is safe in Orange County spending time at her parents place. Hopefully all of this will come to a head soon in LA!

Your Deal of the Week:

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Julie has done a total wardrobe haul with Quince and is obsessed with their bags and pajamas now too! Get free shipping and 365-day returns at https://quince.com/dateable

We're so grateful for all of you and your continued support. We're excited to keep the Dateable mission going strong and counting down the days til the world can be more dateable! If you haven't yet:

Pre-order the book: https://www.howtobedateable.com
Claim all your FREE goodies that you can access now!
Let us know what you think (we love all the emails, posts in the Facebook group, Instagram DM's, and even reviews mentioning that you pre-ordered and are excited about the book!)
Share with a friend who also needs this (so they can pre-order and benefit from these free resources now too!)

Thank you in advance for your support! Again, our thoughts and prayers are with everyone in LA.

And remember to stayyyy Dateable.

XOXO,

Julie & Yue

❤️ Your Dating Archetype | The Dateable Dish

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